Trust: small word with a BIG meaning

Trust,  noun \ˈtrəst\ : belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc.

My thought of the day is… How easy it can be to lose someones trust.

Are you the type of person to trust easily? Or does it take you a while to trust someone? For me, I am in the middle. I trust certain people, and for others trust does not come easy. The saying, “trust is so easy to lose, but yet so hard to get back”, is so true. Trust is very important, but at the same time it can be dangerous. It is important, because it gives us a chance to build a friendship/ relationship with someone. Trust is dangerous when we start to think that our friend, family, or the person we are in love with can never hurt us.

I had a friend hurt me so bad and though I forgave them, the trust will not be the same it was before. Not saying that it will never be the same but it will take a while. I never imagined that out of all people they would lose a certain amount of trust from me (I would give more details about this side story, but they may read this). When I feel as though I can not trust someone I care so much about, it bothers me. I think about the situation longer than I should, then I find myself acting a lot different towards them, even after I am over it. It is just a way for me to try and get that trust back to what it used to be, but it always take time.

Question? What makes you decided that you can trust someone again? For me I they have to prove to me that they deserves it. Do not be a suck up to me, because that is not genuine to me. I do not want them to say that they are sorry over and over either. I really do not want them to do anything but just give me time to think, and then I will determine if I want to to give you my trust again.

I did not want this post to be too short so I found a site that said some things about trust:

Trusting requires that we can, 1. Be vulnerable to others (vulnerable to betrayal in particular); 2. Think well of others, at least in certain domains; and 3. Be optimistic that they are, or at least will be, competent in certain respects. Each of these conditions for trust is relatively uncontroversial. There is a further condition which is controversial, however: the trustor is optimistic that the trustee will have a certain kind of motive for acting. Controversy surrounds this last criterion, because it is unclear what, if any, sort of motive we expect from people we trust. http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/trust/

This post is not as great as it sounded in my head, but I tried to make my point as clear as possible. But remember, you too are capable of losing someones trust. I always take that into consideration.

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